A Discussion on Modesty: Part 2

Today we are posting part 2 of our discussion on modesty:

Q3: What is the line between fashionably feminine or gaudily beguiling?

Megan: First and foremost, I believe this is matter of the heart. I could have on the most conservative jean jumper in the world and still have an attitude that says I am fiercely independent. Whenever I start getting too obsessed with strict dos and don’ts of modesty, I have to go back and remind myself of the heart of modesty.

Taking this a step farther, I think the line is also related to our actions. No matter what we are wearing, we should have an attitude “…which is proper for women professing godliness…” (1 Timothy 2:10)


Amy: The difference between these two lies in what your heart attitude is and how you are perceived by other people. This doesn’t mean you can’t be fashionable, but you have to examine your heart and dress to make sure you are giving out the right image of a godly, modest young woman.“A girl is generally taken at her face value; that is she is thought to be just as she appears to be” (A beautiful Girlhood) When you are dressing fashionable feminine you are modest, dignified, and dress your age. People see this through your clothes and how you carry yourself.   Whereas when you are gaudily beguiling you are dressing to attract attention and can receive the wrong kind of attention.

1 Timothy 2:9-10 ~ In like manner also, that woman adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with braided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.

Q4: Do you have any resources that encouraged you?

Megan: Several :)… I've been engrossed in reading different opinions and visiting lots of online modest clothes stores. Here are some of my favorites…

The Modesty Survey This is an excellent resource that allows girls to see modesty (and immodesty) from a guy's perspective

Feelin Feminine This website stemmed from a group of girls who began holding monthly modesty challenges, where girls were challenged to wear skirts/dresses for 7 days. Now the website features articles on health and hygiene, hairdos, and modesty resources.

Swim Modest Melissa and I got suits here last year and really enjoyed them. They were very modest, but allowed us to move freely in the pool.

Matthew 5:14-16

 ¹⁴Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on an hill cannot be hid.

 ¹⁵Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick; and it giveth light unto all that are in the house.
 ¹⁶Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.

 

Megan: These verses remind and encourage me that my goal in dressing modestly is not to fulfill a checklist. Instead, my goal is to be a light to the world. Dressing modestly should not be an end in itself, it should be just one part of an image that points people to Christ.

 

Amy: The most important thing about modesty is to remember that everything we do needs to glorify god. If we truly love him then we will obey him and he has made it clear that we are to dress modestly. He has called us to be cities on a hill so that others will see the hope within us and seek our heavenly father.

I hope we have encouraged you through our thoughts on modesty. Please comment and share your thoughts and resources on modesty with us. We love hearing from our friends!!  -Megan